Fears: Living A Fear Based Life

    "We have nothing to fear, but fear itself." -Franklin D. Roosevelt.

    Sadly though, a lot of us live a fear based life. We live in a world full of phobias. According to (http://phobialist.com/) there is over 500 documented phobias. That is quite the list, seeing as there is a fear of everything. Everything from the fear of spiders to the fear of water. Sometimes, we let these fears run our lives for us. Fear is a demon, and in order to slay that demon we must close our eyes and say we're not afraid. 

    There is a few things I myself like to do to overcome my fears. Let me share those methods with you today:

  The first method I like to use is the Imagery method. Or, facing my fear each and every day. Whatever my fear may be, weather it be physical or mental. I print a picture, or draw a picture of what I feel it looks like. Some sort of picture or object that resembles what my fear is. And I hang it somewhere where I can see it, first thing in the morning. I hang it either on my door or on a mirror. I face that fear every single morning. And that will acclimate my mind into confronting it everyday, thus rendering me less fearful of that which I feared before. This method is quite direct. In some cases, I have noticed it actually made the fear worse in some people. The majority, though, do actually eventually overcome their fears within a reasonable time. 

    I love to use meditation in these instances. If I feel fear, or work with a client who is full of fear, I usually prescribe daily meditation. I start off with 15 minutes a day, and work it up to around 45 minutes a day after a few months. I recommend meditation, regardless. But, meditation is the best medication anyone can use. There is an old saying, that goes: "If you don't have time to meditate for 15 minutes, meditate for 30". We always have time, we just need to make it. Maybe wake up 15 minutes earlier, Spend 15 minutes less watching TV, or spend 15 minutes less on meaningless tasks. We can always find room for more time, we just have to manage it better.

    Fear, often comes from our deep rooted ideologies from childhood. It could come from a bad experience, or exposure, with something we do not understand. Nothing in the world, is truly scary, or else everyone would be afraid of it. Therefore one can assume that fear can be overcome. Just as you can learn anything you set out to learn. It takes us 21 days to make or break a habit. Fear, comes from habitual rituals. When we can face our fear, and tell our fear we are no longer fearful, we can achieve true happiness. We must remember, that fear is not real, but it is only a figment of our imagination. Fear does not exist, we simply let it exist.

    Living a fear based life, will lead us to living a very unfulfilled life. Lose your fears, and gain your life. Lose what is holding you back, and step forth into becoming the best version of yourself you have ever seen.



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Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

And the followup book, 86,400:
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A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity:
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

A Letter To The Lost..

      Right now you are on a road in life, there is always a road being traveled. Now that might be a dirt road, a gravel road, maybe it is a road in the country or a road in a big city. Maybe that road is blacktop, a highway or a county road. Maybe that road is 4 lanes or 2 lanes. Whatever it may be, you are on a road. Where are you going? What does the horizon look like? What is behind you? What surrounds you? Do you notice anything along your path?

    Imagine you find a bowl along the path. How big is the bowl? What is the bowl bade of? How full is it? Do you keep this bowl or do you drop it and leave it? When you see the bowl, how do you feel?

    You walk more on this road, and notice a key hanging off a tree or a sign. What kind of key is it? What is it made of? How much does it weigh? Is it small, is it large? How connected do you feel to this key? As you progress on this road, do you decide to keep it or do you decide to leave it alone?

    You now reach a fork in the road, to the right is the same path you've been on. But to the left, is a path you have yet to go down. Which way do you go? Which path do you choose to follow? The right or the left?

    Whichever path chosen above, leads you to a house. This house is surrounded by a fence, how does this fence look? What material is it made of? What about the outside of the house? What does it look like? How many stories is it? Is it a big house or a small house?

    Go to the door, is it unlocked? Is it locked? Did you keep that key from earlier? Go inside, what does it look like inside? Does the outside reflect what the inside looks like? Or is the inside completely different? What is the atmosphere like inside? Is it full inside? Or is it void of furniture?

    Leave the house now, and go back to the road. Do you go back the way you came? Or do you decide to go on, into the unknown?

    You may be asking me what all this has to do with? You may even be confused at this point. Let me explain:

The road symbolizes the life you have lived up until now.
The bowl is your feelings about money.
The key is your feelings on success.
The fence is how you set the boundaries in your life.
The outside of the house is how you present yourself onto others.
The inside of the house is your real (true) self.
The road is how far you can go into the future(life).

    How did you fare? Is there anything you wish to change? Are you happy with your results? This all may not make sense at first glance. If not, I urge you to go back and re-read it. Really think about your decisions. Life is all about decisions. You choose your own destiny, your own path is carved by each and every choice you make in your life. You choose your road, you choose how much you want to fill your bowl up, weather you want the key or not, how you fence yourself off, how you present yourself to others, you choose how far you can go in life. The only thing we cannot change, is who we are. Our (true) self. We can only carve around that. We make choices based off who we are.

    What choices have you made thus far in your life? Are you happy with them? Why or why not? Why did you make those choices? Were they your choices? Or did someone else influence them? You see, life is all about the decisions we make. The choices we choose to pursue. What road are you traveling right now? If you don't like it, CHANGE IT. You have the power within you to change every single thing in your life. From the people who occupy your time, to your happiness. Follow your primal instincts. Take what you want from life. The job, TAKE IT. The girl, TAKE IT. The success, TAKE IT. Do not let anyone or anything stand in your path, bust through the walls, jump over the hurdles and continue down that road to success..

Stay positive, and keep it real.


Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

And the followup book, 86,400:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/610922

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

Self Reflection and Self Healing

    Good afternoon everyone. I wasn't able to get my videos uploaded this morning or last night, but I can't leave you hanging without a blog post. I have been in deep contemplation these last few months, and it has brought me to this point. Self reflection and self help. These are two of the most important things one can do for themselves.

    A few months ago I was cast into a world of deep depression and anxiety. My world was flipped upside down, and just a month ago it came to a screeching halt. These past weeks, have been hard. And I myself have done quite a bit of soul searching, and self reflection. Sometimes, you don't need others to help you. You don't need someone to hold your hand, what you need is yourself. To self reflect and to search for your soul, your inner power to get yourself through the troubling times you are facing. You see, when we are faced with these times of peril, we often go about it the wrong way and we end up doing more self damage than self healing.

   When I got cast into my deep depression, I took a step back from the world. From friends, and family. I took a step back from everything I was doing and I worked on helping myself and healing. Some things I recommend doing;

-Meditation:
    Meditation can help you to calm your mind and get the mental clarity to stop obsessing over your situation. Meditation can help you align your thoughts and your mental state to be more relaxed and be more calm about what's going on. Deep, relaxing meditation is a self healing method that has been used for thousands of years, and I recommend doing this first and foremost when you wake up to start your day off in a calm state.

-Walking:
    Not only is taking a walk good for clearing your mind, it is good for your health also. Walking gives your heart the exercise it needs to function properly. It also helps your lungs, by breathing in the fresh air. Also, being outside in the sun gives you adequate vitamin D levels, which helps reduce depression and anxiety. It is recommended to walk at least 30 minutes a day, I usually do this after my meditation.

-Drink some tea:
    Seriously, brew you some green tea in the morning after your walk and sip you a glass. I choose this over coffee most mornings, because it has antioxidants as well as flavonoids that help balance your bodies natural immune system. Green tea also has less caffeine than coffee, caffeine is a good pick me up but too much can be detrimental. I usually have between 3 to 6 cups of tea a day, the green tea is only in the mornings though ( I will write another blog post soon about the different  teas I drink).

-Tai Chi:
    I practice Tai Chi in the mornings to help my body move more fluidly and un-tense my body. I use about a 4-10 minute routine just to get the blood flowing. There are various videos and various sources you can find online for routines to follow.

-Stretching/foam rolling/bioenergetics:
    I have talked on bioenergetics before. I learned about it through Elliott Hulse, and it is a good way to energize your body and your mind. I usually start by stretching for a bit, just intuitive stretching and feeling where my body needs it. After that I start my foam rolling routine that usually takes about an hour. After that, I do some bioenergetics, and begin my day after all of the aforementioned. I recommend searching for bioenergetics on YouTube, to get more information about it. The videos will show you the proper techniques on how to perform it on yourself.

That is my daily routine usually. and it has helped me keep on track and get out of my deep pit I was in. I learned to love myself more, and I learned to rely on myself not other people. That is the key to eternal happiness, and the key to making it through hard times. When you are faced with a troubling time, take a step back. Take some YOU time and reflect on what the situation is about. See what you could do NOW not what you could have done THEN. You cannot see a future, with eyes constantly on the past. You need to live in the now, and self heal.

    I find myself often drawn to nature, and the woods in times of peril. Being out with nature can help you really put life into perspective. Going barefoot, and grounding yourself with the earth in the grass for 15-30 minutes a day can aid in anti-depression, anti-anxiety, and help you sleep better at night. I try to go barefoot everywhere I go, and when I cannot I throw on my Vibram Five Fingers or flip flops and get as barefoot as possible.

    Sometimes you need to shut the lights off, put the electronics down and look up at the sky. Go out on a country road, or go to a field and look up at the stars. Look up and see the stars, the moon, the planets, and that will put life into perspective for you. I myself learned that my problems are minute, in comparison to the vast universe we live in.

Live happy.
Live well.
Do some self reflection.
Love yourself.




Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

And the followup book, 86,400:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/610922

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Three Most Valuable Lessons I learned The Hard Way

     What's going on today everybody? Long night last night getting my video on YouTube processed and up. So, it was a late start to today for me. Hope everyone is having a good Sunday and getting some much needed rest in like myself. I often find myself in deep contemplation on days like this. Slow days, the days that seem to drag on. I find those the best days to catch up on reading, do some deeper meditation than the other days of the week, try something I haven't tried before, go for a hike or a longer walk than usual. I find days like today, the perfect time to really live it up.

     Wouldn't it be nice though, to live everyday that way? Waking up everyday without a care in the world? Waking up everyday and being able to work on yourself, work on your health and wellness. Working on your mental and physical and spiritual self. You can, and I'm about to tell you how.

    You see, a few years ago I found myself interested into becoming my own boss. Not just becoming my own boss, but taking control over my entire life. I decided that I would wake up one day and use my voice to control my life. I made this blog, I made a YouTube channel, and I got some knowledge and became a certified life coach, and got into schooling for other things as well. I now wake up everyday, to better my life and better my future. I wake up as my own boss and I took my life back into my own hands. Now, that's not saying that I will not get a job. I need to get a job, this stuff just doesn't pay what I need. But, doing this is my passion. Find your passion. Take your life back from the corporate greed, take your life back into your own hands.

    Three years ago, when I decided to take my life back I was grasping at every angle possible. I finally found my niche, I finally found what I loved to do. I love to motivate people. I love to heal people, emotionally and physically. I love nature and fitness. This is the avenue I took. Each day I wake up I work towards those goals. I work on my passion. I work on ME. That is the key to eternal happiness, work on YOU first, and the rest after. That is the most valuable lesson I have learned in these last three years. Take care of yourself first and foremost. Whatever that looks like for you, do it. If it means waking up 30 minutes earlier to get your walk in, or your meditation. If it means skipping the lunch with your coworkers to go and get a workout in or to go and get some stretching in or do something for yourself to better your life. It doesn't matter what you have to do to achieve that, it is the most valuable lesson you can learn.

    Think of it this way, it may not make you the most popular person at work. But, you aren't there to win the popularity contest. You are there to do your work and get a paycheck right? If you lost it all right now, and you had nothing, who would be there for you? If the world was falling apart, would those people who you try to impress be there? Fuck no! You would be there though, always take care of yourself first. Always make time for yourself. That goes for any situation, weather work, friendships or relationships. So many of these things fail, because every party involved does not make time for themselves. With that being said, I am not saying ignore everyone else. Simply put, work on yourself before you think you can work on someone else. If you make no time for yourself, your relationships, can crumble without you even knowing why.

    The second most valuable lesson I learned; always let your walk do the talking for you. A lot of people can talk the talk, but can they really walk the walk? You will have a ton of naysayers, no matter what you do or where you go with it. From teachers, to doctors all the way to personal trainers and even being a parent. You will always have people who talk shit, and downgrade you. DO NOT RESPOND TO THESE PEOPLE. That is rule one. They want that, to bring you down to their level and beat you with experience. Instead, let your actions, let your walk do the talking for you. If your actions cannot do the talking for you, than that is something you must analyze on your own personal level. Actions speak way louder than words ever could.

    Don't let those who wish to bring you down, bring you down through negativity. Let those negative comments fuel you. People will talk bad about that which they don't understand, it is human nature. Let them talk, they talk all the talk they can because at the end of the day they cannot walk the walk like you and I can. Let these haters fuel your fire and your desire. If someone truly does back your cause, or what you do, their actions will speak into you more than their words do. They can say that they support you all they want. Are they commenting and giving you constructive criticism, or good vibes? Are they sharing your word or services with their friends and acquaintances? If they say they support you, but do none of these, than what support are they giving you? Trust actions, NOT words.

   That brings me to my final valuable lesson I learned. Your consequences are a direct result of your own actions. That is a bitter and tough pill to swallow for some. It was for me at first. I was the type, like a lot of others, to blame my results on someone else. I always laid the blame on someone else for my own actions. There is a level of maturity one will reach, when faced with their own consequences and they can say "This is my fuck up, and mine alone". We must realize, that no one else makes these choices for us. They may influence what we do, but when it gets down to the core of it you are the only one making the decision. Not them, not anyone but yourself. We need to learn, and quit laying blame on others when shit doesn't work out. When a relationship goes south, both sides argue that it was the other person but fail to see their own misgivings. When you lose your job, it is always the bosses fault for "having it out for you". Car breaks down, and it is the manufactures fault, not the fact that you didn't put oil in it fir 6 months or put gas in it when it needed it.

    That's it you guys, those are the three most valuable lessons I have learned so far. There are more, but these three are the ones that resonate most with me. Work on yourself first, let your walking do your talking for you and keep your consequences on yourself not others. That's it. With those three lessons, you can be as successful as you want to be. I myself learned these lessons the hard way. I have loved and lost, and I have had people walk out of my life simply because I was being an egotistical prick. Don't make the same mistakes I did. Don't be an asshole, and tune in tomorrow for some more motivation.


Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

And the followup book, 86,400:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/610922

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

What's the Point?

    I get asked this question often. What's the point of working out everyday? What's the point of lifting all that heavy stuff? What's the point of your schooling, and what you're educating yourself on? What's the point of doing what you do? "It won't get you anywhere". "What is the practical use for it all?". Time after time I get asked all these questions and told that what I do is worthless. I get asked what the point of life is, what the point of doing what i do is. I am baffled about how much I get bombarded with these questions and ridicule.

    The point? In short, there is no point. I could accept my fate, my ultimate fate of death, and not do a damn thing with my life. I could go sit behind a desk and pencil push and punch a time clock. "Yes sir, no sir" and brown nose my way to a head higher in the corporate ass. 40 hour weeks, pension, vacation days, sick days. I could do all that. OR I could do what I love, and never work a day in my life. Why do I do what I do? What's the point? I have a passion, I have motivation and drive to do something worthwhile. Something that I LOVE to do. Something that makes me feel alive everyday that I do it. I feel at home when that heavy barbell leaves the floor. I feel at home when my bare feet touch the ground outside. When I am exploring the outdoors and becoming one with nature. When I meditate, and heal my body. The point? I am using my knowledge and my experience to change other peoples lives.

    The point of all of this, is to do what you love and let it kill you. Do what you love, and live your life freely. I could settle, I could get a job and settle for 60 years and die. Or I could get a job, and move my way up in the world. Eventually opening my own business and helping everyone I can reach. Through this blog, through my videos, through me going to school and through me gaining more knowledge and first world experience at things. I am able to help mold someone else's life. That is why I do what I do. I got into fitness and nutrition to help save my own life, and I am using that to help save others. Fitness has kept me from death. And nutrition kept me from an early grave by diseases.

    It hurts, the grind, the struggle, it hurts real bad. But so does mediocrity. So does defeat and so does falling from grace. If no one did what they loved, the things we love most wouldn't be here. I do what I do, to give back. Motivation, nutrition, fitness, eastern healing arts such as Reiki and Hypnotherapy and things in that category. These things drive me, these things are my passion. I am on this earth to help spread the message of love, and healing into each and every person who crosses my path.

    So, what's the point you ask? The point of this life? The point is to do what you love despite what everyone says. Do what you love, until the day you die even if what you love kills you. Find your passion, find your mark you want to make on the world and run with it. Never dull yourself for the darkness others spread. Never let their negative outshine your positive. Find your passion, find your heart and find yourself. Once you do, don't let anything stop you. You can achieve anything you set your mind out to achieve. The world is full of possibilities, endless possibilities. The point of this life, is to live it to its fullest. With no regrets, with no off button. Go out, have fun, experience things and don't look back. It's not about the number of moments you have, but what those few moments meant to you. Make them all count.

    Don't come to a point in your life, where you look back and you see all the things you wish you would have done. Come to the point, when you can  look back and think "What a ride that was" Look back on your life, and don't regret anything. Everything you do, you do for a reason. Everything do you, is exactly what you want to do. The choice is yours, the end result is yours to choose. Choose your own point in life.


Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

And the followup book, 86,400:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/610922

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Brightest Lights Shine During the Darkest Times

    During this lifetime, you will have your dark days. Sometimes those days may turn into weeks, or even months. Sometimes it may be a year or two before you finally begin to see the light at the end of the tunnel. But, those brightest lights shine during the darkest of times. You are that bright light, you are the one shining, eroding away at the darkness. You may not even notice it, but you are changing the world around you. You are creating the world you are living in, and when you come to realize that, you can control any situation you come across.

    We don't realize it, but our thoughts shape our actions. Those actions shape our very life before us. Therefore if you consistently think negative thoughts, we consistently do negative things, all we will see is the negative in the world around us. We start to notice all the negative things, all the bad drivers, all the broken this and dead that. We shape our world with our thoughts. We think of the world in such a negative way, and we turn on the news and that's all that it is. Negative, and more negative. Too often, we live in this negative mindset, because of the negative self image we have. We see ourselves in a negative place, so in default we also see the world around us just as negatively.

    When we can go into a bad situation, and think positively about it, we can become that light shining in the dark. The world is not the bad place you see on the news, it is not the bad place you hear about from others. These people are stuck in negative self image and negative self mindsets. When you can kick this mindset and look at the world through the gaze of light, then you can begin to mold it for your betterment. You see, the kaleidoscope turns more than one way. One way may be dark, but the other brings in more light. Things aren't always as they seem at first, it is only when we look at it in a different perspective, we can finally see it for what it is. And what is it? It is simply, a situation to be molded.

    There are countless numbers of ways to mold one situation, so often we choose to mold it negatively. Instead, I encourage you to look at every situation and analyze it. Look at both the negative and the positive. Look at each situation and determine how your actions will mold it. Look at your life right now, and weight the positives with the negatives. Why are the negatives negative? Say you lost your job, that's probably a negative right? Or, is it an underlying positive? Turn that job loss, into following your dreams. Turn that job loss, as a kick in the ass to start your life back up. Maybe your girlfriend left you or wife divorced you. Or, vice versa for the ladies. Turn that breakup or that divorce into an underlying positive, what ended it? What part did you play in that? Can you change yourself? Of course you fucking can. So go do it, mold yourself from those negative perspectives you've shown everyone, into a positive for the next one. Or who knows, maybe she was just giving you a wake up call.

    The point I am trying to get across is this, nothing is as what it seems, until you make it what it is. You have the power to shape your own actions. When you think positively, your actions will reflect that. When your actions reflect that, you can mold your world around you. So, when you are faced with a decision in your life, or when you come to a situation. Stop and think, use your thoughts to manifest the reality you want. It's the power of positive thought people, be that bright light shining among the darkness around you. You have the ability to change the world.



Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

And the followup book, 86,400:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/610922

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

Just where in the world have I been?!

I hear it often, from the few people that regularly read my posts and watch my videos. I have gone fairly rogue for the last few months. I have taken the time to do some self reflection. I am currently in school. and I took a 60 day leave of absence. The beginning of 2016 was looking good, I started my own nofap journey and things were looking up. But, every high has its low. Unfortunately the nofap journey came to an end just a month in, when I had a breakup with my now girlfriend, and my grandmother being in the hospital.

  To keep a rather long story short, my girlfriend decided we needed space, which I agreed to. But, for some reason I couldn't listen to. Which ended up in a breakup. My grandmother was in an ICU room for 4 days before moved to a hospice room and passing away March 2nd of this year. I have done no blogging and no fitness related anything since. In fact, the only fitness related anything I did was my cousins attempt to get me out of my depression by dragging me to the gym with him and his best friend.

  These last few months, I have been in deep self reflection. I have been in deep thought and deep concentration. I have used these last few months of silence to absorb more than I let out into the world. I have been gaining knowledge, both self and business knowledge. I have been in deep contemplation on what avenue I want to take my channel and my blog. I decided to keep up this course, with fitness and nutrition. Along with the motivational speaking. I want to reach out to all those like me, who can get into deep holes of depression that are seemingly endless. My path is one that is paved with many obstacles. I am going to work more on my body and getting it into the proper proportion. This will be phase one:

    Phase one includes walking everyday, meditation everyday, and yoga everyday. Transitioning to eating healthier and eating less foods that are body damaging and eating more body healing foods. I will also be doing Tai Chi every morning on top of that. As well as deep foam rolling.

Phase two: Will consist of bodyweight exercises and outside workouts. Such as grass cutting, log splitting, log lifting, etc. Along with the aforementioned in phase one.

Phase three: I will be getting either back into a gym membership and crushing the weights in there, or investing in my own weights to crush. But phase three will consist of the restart of my previous routine done by my coach George Leeman.

Phase four: This phase is where things start coming together. I am hoping by this phase I will be in the last stages of becoming the version of myself I see in phase five. This will be the phase where I put it to the grind and get my own business off the ground.

Phase five: This is the phase where shit will start popping off. The phase where I transition from the person online who is struggling mentally and physically, to the one who travels around giving seminars as a motivational speaker and fitness guru who can help those who are stuck in those dark holes or stuck in life in general.

  You see, I haven't just wallowed in self sorrow and self pity. I have been contemplating my part here in this life. We're living just to die and dying just to live. I want to break this damn cycle of saying, not doing, and saying some more. This is the year for ACTION. Watch me, as I show you transformation after transformation. Mentally, physically, spiritually and financially.



Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
 http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Color Grey.

"Everything is black and white". A phrase heard globally. And, everyone assumes it is true. I mean, there has to be two opposing sides to everything, right?
  Things have to be so simple. It's either one side, or the other. You're either for something, or against it. There is no "in between" in most of the lives on this planet. You are told you must either pick and choose. You cannot "sit on the fence" as it is referred to. I am here to tell you, you don't have to choose which side to sit on. You can, in fact, sit on the proverbial "fence". Because there is no defined sides. The sides we define, are just perceptions of our own minds. What we think, we become.

  In politics, we have Democrats and Republicans. Each of those sides, have "differing" opinions. And those who believe those ideals, are therefore considered one side or the other. Conservatives and Liberals. Light and Dark. People,  believe their ideals are right. But, they're both right, and they're both wrong. It depends on the person. You see, we have our own perspectives, our own perception of the world. For you to go up to somebody and say, "YOUR view is wrong, because I myself do not view it that way." Is asinine, its arrogant and it is downright disrespectful. It is like, pissing in a cup and calling it beer because you drank a 6 pack, so you say it's beer. Your opinion is not the only opinion on the planet. So why do you make it out that it is?

    We get in the groove, this "light and dark" groove. We think everything is all one sided. If it isn't Democrat, its obviously Republican right? Those crazy right wingers, stupid left wing liberal hippies. It's been this way for decades, upon decades, because nobody has questioned the structure upon how society has been built. Why would be question something that is our way of life? It has been that way for many generations. Everyone falling into line, accepting what is told, is told, and that is that. When in the reality of it, that is so far wrong that it isn't even plausible to think otherwise. The world is NOT black and white. It is in fact, many colors of many different shades. That all blend into one big ass color grey.

    Things, are never as they seem. What you see, someone else does not see. All 7 billion plus people, see things in a different perspective. So of course, it cannot just be black and white. It is 7 billion shades of grey. Every shade, adding to the overall picture. None of us have the right way, nor the wrong way of doing things. Everyone likes to believe that they have the right answers. And, anyone who doesn't agree is wrong. That is how empires are formed, and that is ultimately how they will fall. Like the Roman Empire, who thought their way was the BEST way. For the time being, it was the best. But, everything good comes to an end, as did the Roman Empire. And, it happened Internally.

    Stay humble, when voicing your opinion, and when faced with a rebuttal and you are thinking of voicing your opinion on their opinion of your opinion, stop and think "What impact may my words have on them?", "Is my way really the ONLY right way?". If you ask yourself those two questions, you can never go wrong when the universe gives you an answer back. Because, your first response before asking those questions was probably bullshit. Which was most likely, going to be some sort of insult. We all have those urges. When someone aggravates us, and they say we are wrong. When they just get under the skin, our first instinct is to attack. When behind a keyboard, you cannot punch someone. Your next best defense is your mind, but far too often our minds go into slave mode and we throw insults out at each other. This, gets us nowhere but backwards. We are trying to progress as a society, and our technological advancement is far too fast for our intellectual advancement to catch up.
 
    We have 9 year old girls giving sex shows on webcams, kids having access to websites with pornography, drugs and violence. We have people literally taking their own life, because of the words of another person. People are SO caught up in the acceptance of others, that if you insult their clothes, or the way they look, they starve themselves or they kill themselves. Or, they will do anything to gain your approval. Even if they do not know you. With technology, you can now see a woman's naked body, without even meeting her. What once was a holy ground, a sacred gesture only those who were worthy enough to see, is now seen by millions. A few typed words, and a woman will send you pictures without clothes. Spread eagle, for the world to see. Without even seeing your real face or hearing your voice. It is a sad sad world we live in. Yet, everything everyone says is always the right answer. It's never wrong. But, it's always wrong.

    There is a paradox here, somewhere, when people get into arguments. These arguments, are at such a 3rd grade level sometimes, I worry for our world. When you resort to name calling, as your rebuttal, you are in fact, wrong. There are no ifs, ands, or buts. You are 100% wrong. This will invoke anger in your "opponent" and, they will rebuttal with the same if they are wired like you are. Most people are, most people are wired by society. Society is always wrong, but they're never wrong. They're never right, but they're always right. Confused yet?

This is why wars are started, and fought. Over people, will differing opinions on how the world should be ran.

    The point I am trying to make, in all this confusion, is this. The world, society as a whole, tends to think on the premise that there are two equal sides to the fence. When in reality, there is more to the world than black and white. There are more than two sides. There are 7 billion sides. The media, the governments of the world, the "leaders", would like you to perceive it as a black and white issue. But the fact remains, the world is made up of over 7 billions shades of grey, you are but one side to a 7 billion sided die.

   This is why wars are started, and fought. Over people, will differing opinions on how the world should be ran.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Fear Of Rejection, And The Word No.

 "No", a two letter word that we all fear. We are all guilty of this. Ever put off a phone call, maybe to your boss? Maybe your significant other? Maybe you didn't look at that house or that car? You feared them saying, "no <insert name here>, you cannot afford/do that" Face it, we all fear rejection. We all have the nagging feeling of a situation turning south.

  We need to get out of the malicious mindset that everyone in the world is out to get us. The mindset that we are going to fail, be rejected and be told no. Am I saying, you'll always be told yes? Absolutely not. You will be told No, quite a lot. The mindset you have, going into a situation is how you get through it.

  Imagine, you're with someone about to propose. And they simply say "no". I've had this happen to me, it's been about 4 years almost. My mindset at the time wasn't the greatest. But, I learned from that. I've matured. I've come to the realization, when a situation arises for rejection, when someone has an opportunity to shatter your dreams with a 'NO' you must get into THIS mindset.

  Say you're going for a big job interview, now you aren't the best candidate on paper. There are many more qualified people applying. But you WANT that shit more. You prove with body language, and attitude that you're their best choice. You simply say "fuck it". You get in the mindset that they NEED you, not the other way around. You get in the mindset that if they reject you, if they say no, that's their loss.. Fuck it.
  You'll find another job, another car. Hell another woman. They're plentiful in the world. But, there is only ONE you. Own that shit. Own yourself, take charge and simply fuck everything. There are no bad days, only bad mindsets. There is always a silver lining. Always a reason to be thankful, get in the mindset things could be worse off. Get out of your head and into your emotions. Control them, do not let them control you and your actions.

  Boss won't give you a raise, and you've been there 20 years, but Mr. Brown noser gets one only after 2 years? Fuck it, you leave that job. You don't take shit from anyone. You only get one life. Do you want to spend it in a cubical making someone else rich? Making them money?
  The greatest success in life is to die doing what you love.
  Look at the crocodile hunter? Many would say he lived a short life. But he lived more each time he went out, than most do in their lifetime. What is your goal? Your dream? To skydive? Do it. To lift 1,500lbs from the floor? To clean and snatch 900lbs? Do that shit. You live life with the mentality, that it isn't always sunshine and fucking rainbows. You won't always hear yes, but if you love your life you'll live everyday. If you love your job, if you love the word NO, and realize that no is a blessing in disguise sometimes you'll live the perfect life.

  Think, maybe that no from one job is to set up your dreams for another?
Blessings in disguise.
Embrace the "NO".

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

You Are Not Who You Think You Are.

  So often, we want to identify ourselves with a certain aspect of the world. Or, of life in general. We want to feel like we belong, like we are important to something. We want to BE things, we want people to KNOW we are those things. That, is where so many of us go wrong. We want to identify with things we think will make us feel whole. All the while, it is imprisoning us even further. We strive to become something when, in reality, we are everything we need to be. At this very exact moment in time, you have the tools you need to succeed in anything you choose. But, do not identify yourself as those things. Do not let the things you do, define who or what you are.

  I myself, do not identify myself as anything. I am not a man, nor am I a woman. I am not a human, nor am I an alien. I am neither alive, nor dead. I just am. I am here, in this moment as a sentient being of a planet, so vast and so versatile, that I can do anything I choose to do. We simplify the world so much, that our technological advances will be our downfall. Sure, it's nice to pick up a computer or a phone and talk to people globally. I mean, millions of years ago, the only people you thought existed were those who you were raised with. But now, we have access to BILLIONS of others. We have the power, to go anywhere and do anything. We have cars, planes, helicopters, boats and trains. You name it, we can travel on or in it. Yet, we shut ourselves down. We shut out the world, and destroy our means of survival.

  Many people, think the President is a higher power because of him being in a position of power. The same goes for law enforcement and others of a "higher ranking". Those, are all social marks we put on the people who have done things with their lives. Is it good, to be in a position of power? Yes, in some aspects. But, it is when you let yourself become that power and that power define you that you have a problem. Do not, think for a moment that you are better than I or anyone else just because you have a "higher" social ranking. It goes back to high school. Or ever further back, to adolescence. Even your birth day. When we are born, we are automatically imprisoned into this world. We are given a number, that defines our every waking moment. Our whole being is categorized by a number.

  Furthermore, when we grow older and are able to start moving around. We are told "no" the infamous word heard world wide. You ask something, "no" you are told. You want something, "no" you are told. You are told you are a bad child, when you throw a tantrum. You are told it is WRONG to express your emotions. Another prison. The inability to express your true feelings. So you grow older, and you begin using the word NO. Many parents, and non parents alike, know that world. A child says it all the time. It is what they are taught from day 1. But, they are punished for it. Scolded and put in a "time out" because of using it. But, the parents and adults alike still tell the child "no". "I'm hungry mommy/daddy". The response? "No, you just ate 2 hours ago you'll be fine".

  You are told, what you like. Why you like. Who you like. What to wear. When to eat. What to eat. What to do. What to say. How to say. How to act. You don't run your life as a child. And this progresses into school. You are told all those things and more. You eat at certain times. You can only play at certain times. You are told how you must dress in "public". You are told when and how to talk. You SIT there all day, 8 hours, in a classroom. Learning things out of a book, that others tell you is the "right thing". And this progresses into middle school.

  The rules get stricter. The world buckles down on you. It has to right? Or else, you'd be completely out of control. Am I right? Or, is this just a teaching we use to further imprison people? The older we get, the longer we sit. In school, we lose the ability to go outside. So we are stuck, sitting all day. We grow older. and reach high school. And, this trend progresses. We are told, you must dress proper. To act proper. To talk properly and sit more. Sit, sit, sit and more sitting. We are told to get a job, A job, where most of us sit. Or we slave away at something that makes us unhappy. We are told this is our JOB, our PLACE to do these things. Only because if we fail to do so, we are labeled as "not fit" for society.

  Now, am I saying that having a job is bad? By no means am I saying that. I, also, am not saying that we do not need to WORK. We simply don't need a "job". You must work on yourself, you must work for the world. Not, for a company nor for an organization that does not better YOU. Why slave away years of your limited life, for someone or something that does not make you happy. You make them happy everyday. You make them money, they are living the high life. While you live paycheck to paycheck. Thinking, that is your only means of income. When in reality, your TRUE income is how you pay yourself. How you pay your body. How you choose to pay your soul, you are entitled to whatever you want for your mind. You have a plethora of information, information not seen for millions of years by so many, with the internet now you can make yourself knowledgeable in anything you choose. Why do you choose social media? Why do you choose to do things that make you unhappy? There is a world of things, that can fulfill your wildest ambitions.

  Do not, identify yourself as anything. You are not your job. You are not your music. You are not the way you dress. Nor how you act, how you feel. You are not the title you hold. You are not any better than anyone or anything else. You are simply, you. Free yourself from this fucking prison. Do not be held back, from your true purpose in life. So many years have passed us all by. How old are you? That's how long you've been in a prison. For me, that was 23 years. No more though. Do not worry about hurt feelings. Do not cry over spilled milk. A wolf, does not  concern himself with the opinions of sheep. BE that Lion. Be the leader of your own life. Break out of the prison, that is holding your life back.

  Be your true purpose.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The God Complex

GOD. 

  Mention those three letters, and everyone suddenly knows everything about life. The words, creationism and evolution are heavily debated topics. One side says a higher being of power created all things around us. While, opposite that, the other side says we were all born of stardust. And, god forbid you argue against either of them. Radical Christians and radical evolutionists. The argument is never ending.

  The Bible, The Quran, The Book of Mormon, The Torah, Spiritualism, The Book of Law, Buddhism, the list goes on. You could write a post simply about the "holy books" of history and modern society. Every single day, someone is trying to create a new religion. Remember Scientology? People are always looking for the blanket to keep them safe. The next thing to follow. We all look for that safety net in the end, weather it be God, or weather it be drugs, it could be food. A countless number of things.

  The age old questions always get asked, "who is god?" "what is god?" "where did he or she come from?" The list of questions goes on forever. Why do good things happen to bad people? Why would god allow this? How did his son dying, help erase our sins? What is a sin? Why are sins so bad? Heaven? Hell? What are these? Where are these? You see, an list of questions arises. And still, we follow our faith. Many look towards God, some towards Allah, some Mohammed and so forth. Some worship Buddah, and some worship the trees and the land. I myself, have no preference. I do not follow "religion" I feel religion is a complex, made up to simply give choice to choiceless people.

  Am I denying the existence of a God? No, I believe this universe is all intertwined like this very internet we are on. A complexity of circuits, all working together. Heaven and Hell are merely concepts, of success and failure. You create your own life, your own universe, upon the template given to you by the higher power out there. The idea of god, is merely what you want to make it. Do not let it control you, like so many others. Many people use the idea of God to control their lives with fear. I tell you now, to be fearless. Do not forget your faith. But do not let your faith forget you, do not let your faith control you. One wrong move, and its blasphemy. One wrong word, and you're condemned to a life of eternal hell fire and torture. 

  You see where I am coming from? The mind is a powerful tool, use it for a good purpose and you will make it wherever you want in life. But, fail to use its full potential? You are already condemned to a life full of hell and misery. There is a quote I like, "A coward dies a thousand death, a warrior dies but one". Don't be a coward, because of your belief. Be a warrior for what you believe in. Fight for what you believe, but do not be ignorant. Do not be a mindless drone, arguing what you were taught your whole life. Everything you have ever been told is a lie. It is up to you, to figure out what the lies and the truths are yourself. Go out, and create yourself.

  Day and night, the sun and the moon. Negative and positive. They are all connected to one another. All things exist and all things do not exist, at the same time. What you see, is not always what is real, and what is real is not always what you are seeing. Take for instance, Christmas which is touted as the Christian holiday on which Jesus was born. It actually started out as a Pagan holiday, which was about sacrifice. Easter? A holiday about fertility and sex. You see? What we are taught to believe of reality, is not so real after all.

  If you take anything away from this, anything at all. I would have you take this message away. Do not fall into line behind all the others. Do not do something, simply because it is the socially normal  thing to do. Follow your own path, and fear not the repercussions. Live your life as if it is your last day. And whatever you do, do not fall into the God Complex, created to scare you into line with the rest of the socially inept.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:

http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html

http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html

http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html

http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here: 

http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.

https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Greatest Deception Of The Modern Era

"What do you want to be when you grow up?"  That seems to be the age old question, asked to kids of all age. The funny thing? Most adults still cannot answer that question, nor can they say they are doing what they intended with their lives. Sad, isn't it?
  You may be one of them, sitting there and thinking to yourself "WHAT do I really want to do with my life?"  I know, because I was at that point in my life not to long ago myself. Depressed, daily, no motivation and no care for the future. I thought to myself, "what is the point? Nothing ever goes right anyways". But, maybe the veil is so far over our eyes that we just cannot see what we need to. We cannot see what life has in store for us, if we just stray from the social norms.
  Oh, you know exactly what I am talking about. It's imprinted upon us from birth. To "follow in the footsteps of the great ones".  At 4 years old we start going to school, we do 15 years of schooling. The next step is college, which is usually 4 years sometimes upwards of almost 10 for some. And all you get is a piece of paper showing you now have $100,000 in debt. Next up, is the job. You have to get one of those, god forbid you enjoy your life. Most of the time it isn't even in the field of work you went to college for. You work for a corporation that can and WILL drop you at the drop of a hat. For seemingly no reason, other than to "cut costs". Then what? No job, wife leaves you and you wind up homeless with nothing in the world except yourself.
  Now, those lucky ones, who keep that job. Go to it everyday, but are they so lucky after all? Back pains, countless ailments and diseases. Poor diets, and lack of motivation. Doughnuts and coffee every morning, just for their pick me up. Some junk for lunch, and a quick dinner scarfed down in front of the T.V. so they can rush to bed and get their 5 average hours of sleep. Don't forget their hectic lives with the kids schedule, that they are always stressed about. Eventually, they reach retirement age. Ah, the golden years have passed. With little to show, hardly seeing their kids grow up because of grueling hours at the office. Wife cheating on them, because they're too tired to pleasure her. And when they do, finally get to that moment, he can't get it up.
  Fast forward, he saved so much for his pension. Finally able to retire. How does he spend his days? Not for fun, or entertainment. Not spent with his wife, he now has a growing ignominy for her. So he sleeps his days away, when he isn't going to countless doctors appointments. All those years of heartburn, and popping pills has given him many medical problems. And, the misses is no different. Living out the rest of their days ignoring each other for the most part, him napping and her never doing anything right to him. Until one day, something tragic happened to one of them.
  Now, say Mr. Smith shall we call him? Mr. Smith, is the first to go. Mrs. Smith lives her life out in sorrow until one of her countless diseases takes her. Now, the kids they birthed fall into the same trap. Living their lives out in quite the same manner. The saddest part? This is the social norm, now days. The timeline for "success" goes a little like this:
-Go to school for 15 years.
-Go to college.
-Get a job.
-Save for retirement.
-Retire.
-Die.
  Sounds pretty damn boring to me. Sounds like the easy way out. The great deception making everyone believe in this fallacy of the "American Dream". A dream evolved over time, into something most people settle for. The American dream, use to be to live a happy healthy life with your family. Spending days working, not only on yourself or your house, but also on your family. So many now days, lose not only themselves but also their families and friends in not the pursuit of happiness, no in the pursuit of money. The pursuit of fame. We have evolved into a selfish self centered race of beings. But, selfishness is not always bad, considering though that most people now days are more selfish than selfless I fear for our future if we keep this pace up.
  I fear, of a future where the man next to you cannot be trusted. Where, family cannot support family. Once trusted individuals, now stab you in the back for litter better than to relish in their own fame and fortune. We sacrifice what we most need, for what we most want. Am I telling you, to give up on your dreams? NO, not exactly, in fact I am telling you the opposite! Follow your dreams! Follow that which is in your heart, and don't ever give up nor give in. But heed this warning, do not give up the things that mean most in your life. Do not give up your heart, for anything. You own that, own yourself and never give your true self up. Always be you.
  If you aren't happy with your life, quit your job. Follow your dreams, follow what is in your heart. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop falling into the pit of despair and fucking do something about it. If you're happy living out your days like detailed about, fuck you. You are why, this world is how it is. You are how come future generations will peril to the mundane 9-5 lifestyle.
  But, if you want to change. You go and grab life by the balls. You go and change yourself.
Be bigger, be better, be stronger. Never stop evolving. Never give up.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Meaning of Life.

I want to talk today about life in general. And, how you can make your life happier and better to the level you wish to achieve it. It is possible, to turn your life around and to be happier than you ever thought. While some of you sit there, you're depressed and upset. You cannot find a reason to even wake up anymore. And, to be 100% honest with you, I have been there before. A few years ago. I was at my low point. But, I turned it around. And now, while I am not 100% at the goals I have. I am on my way, on the path. And I am happy. Finally. You can be too, if you put the work and effort in. In this post, I will tell you some things that can help you achieve that next level, and some steps you can take to get there.

FIRST THING FIRST: 

  Stop being so hard on yourself, just stop. Quit downing yourself. "I'm so fat" "I'm ugly, no one will ever want me" "I'll never be happy". Guess what? You're exactly right. You know why? Because, you believe those things, so you project those thoughts through your expressions towards others. You are amazing the way you are. Okay? Sure, you have some excess fat, and sure, maybe your looks aren't that of the popular magazines and the TV/Movie stars. Guess what? They don't look that good either. They have photoshop and TONS of makeup, to make them look that way. In all reality, they are real people, with acne and blemishes. They have bad hair days, and feelings of always being bloated. But they put on that act, and trick you into thinking that they don't have a single care in the world. In all reality, they care more than each and every one of us. We care about going out in public looking how we do, but truth be told they get so much publicity that if they do have a single hint of some kind of blemish, all of a sudden their career is over. So stop comparing yourself to those you see on TV and in magazines. Because, you'll never be them. You are yourself. And, that is all you need to ask yourself to be. Don't expect to ever look like Marilyn Monroe. Or, Gerard Butler. It just won't happen. Love yourself, love your flaws. They make you beautiful, they make you human. They make you, real. Don't cover them up, don't let someone change you. If they don't like you for who you are, that is on them. Love yourself for who you are. And, if you don't like something, change it. But never let another persons opinion make you change. Don't lose the weight for them, to look better for them. Do it for your health. Quit standing in the mirror, sucking in your gut saying "I'm so fat and ugly I hate this". Instead look in there and say "I love myself, and if I change it will be for my health. Today will be a good day because I am alive". Because, ultimately, any day you wake up is a day to feel blessed.

SECOND:

  Get on a routine. And stick with it. Don't just sometimes do it. Do it every single day of your life. Don't make the excuse of "I'm tired" or things along that line. Just DO IT. It's that simple. You either do it differently than you usually do, or stay the same. It's a simple concept really. When you break it down to the simplest terminology. It is simply, change your routine and you change your life. Keep the same routine, you'll keep the same future.

THIRD:

  Meditate. Meditation every morning, daily. Can help your mind and body. It will help you to be less stressed. Will help your mind be sharper. Help your hunger, and your overall mood. You will find yourself to be more alert and help you be more "with it", If you may. You will feel an overall wellness. And an aura of happiness wash over you. You will he more relaxed and more at ease. Your whole body will feel good. It will help you get your motivation up.

FOURTH:

  Adapt the Primal lifestyle. Stop drinking soda. Drink only water, tea or coffee. Eat real foods. Fatty meats, fruits occasionally and vegetables. Lots of vegetables. And eat till you're full. Only eat when you're hungry. And do periodic fasting.

FIFTH:

  Be more positive. This is pretty self explanatory. Stop the stress. Stop being so negative, saying you cannot do anything. Or that it won't work. Just do it. And do it well. Give it your all. And never tell yourself you cannot do something.

SIXTH:

  Keep it up. And keep doing it well. You will fall into your routine and you won't even think about it. You will just do it. Keep it up and you will continue to see results. You will consistently see results. May it be, fat loss. Muscle gains. Getting more cut. Getting healthier. A happier mind. You will see more and more results. And, eventually your goals will be achieved.

  Just do what you do, and keep it consistent. You can achieve your results. Do your best, and don't let others get to you.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/the-importance-of-routine.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

Until a future time,

Corey.

The Do's and Do Not's of Fat Loss.

  We were all there once. Looking in the mirror, wanting to change. But not really knowing how. We over complicated it. And we stress our selves out. We hop on the scale, and frown when it says we actually GAINED weight. And we scream "HOW CAN THAT BE I HAVE BEEN ON KEY ALL WEEK". Well. In this article I will tell you a few key Do's and Do Not's for your fat loss journeys.

-DO: Eat Clean "Organic" Foods:

  I cannot stress this point enough. Just eat food, nothing processed. No grain infused frozen meals. Animals, and plants. That is all. No corn or grains. No starchy carbs like potatoes. Just eat an abundance of plants and some animals for protein.

-DO NOT: Over complicate things:

  Just do it, don't think too hard. Don't weigh yourself everyday. You'll only psych and stress yourself out. And stress, will make you retain and even gain weight. Just, do what you're suppose to and look in the mirror, measure your waist. And if they don't go down, change your diet. Train harder. Do something different. It's nice to see weight go down, but on any given day your weight can fluctuate 3-5lbs. It's usually water weight. So don't stress those few pounds heavier you are. Also, you have to factor in muscles, if you are strength training. As you can see, the scale can be your worst enemy on any fat loss venture.

-DO: Train hard:

  Give it your all, no matter what you're doing. Weather it is a lifting program, a body weight program. Or if you're just starting out and you're walking. Just give it your all. Don't give up. In the words of the late Master Yoda. "Do or Do Not, there is no Try/" And that is so true, you either do it, or you don't. There is no "trying to do" something. Because if you wanted it bad enough, you would just fucking do it. No complaints, no whining, no "I'll do it tomorrow," Or "I'll do it monday, it's good to start on the first of a week". Who the hell gave you that stupid ass idea? I don't care if it is, 3 a/m/ and you are sitting there and you get that twinge of something deep within you, you want to change. Don't say "I will do it in the morning" You want results, put in the fucking work. You get your ass up off the couch THAT NIGHT, and you go for a walk before bed. I don't care what time it is. If you want it done, do it/ Quit eating those foods, quit drinking that soda. I believe in each and every one of you. So believe in your damn self for once. Because I did it, I lost 115lbs. Not because I "did it on Monday" I looked in the mirror, and said "WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING TO YOURSELF" and I made that change. I know you can too.

-DO NOT: Let people bring you down:

  Don't let someone bring you down. You're in a good mood, working out. You're eating better. Granted, maybe not as good as you should. But you dropped the soda, and got to walking and stuff. And BAM, you hear someone whisper "damn that guy/girl is so fat why are they even trying?" Or maybe someone isn't noticing your weight loss, or how good you're doing. So you go back to your comfort. You binge, you eat so much till you get to the point of being sick. You get depressed, and you don't want to move on. You go back to your old habits. NO, YOU DON'T. You look them in the eyes, and say "FUCK YOU" because you're doing what YOU know is right. What helps YOU in YOUR life. Not theirs. If you're doing it right. Putting in the hard work, and you are seeing even small changes. You KEEP DOING IT. Despite what anyone says. Because, they don't see your struggle. They don't even know you. They just speculate based on what they perceive. So be strong. Do not, let uneducated people bring down your mood. You're doing this for you, keep at it and one day you'll laugh in their face when they haven't achieved their goals, and you have.

-DO: Write it down:

  Everything, yes I said it right, EVERYTHING. Every little morsel you eat. Weather it is a 12oz porterhouse. Or one cookie. Every calorie counts. And you'll be able to see, on those days you "cheat" and have a brownie or a piece of pie. How many calories over your goal you've went. How, empty those sugary concoctions are for your health. They're sugar and carbs, and all sorts of additives. So, skip those if you're looking for fat loss. Write down all the food you eat, the drinks you consume. Your morning coffee or green tea. Your afternoon sweet tea, or un-sweet if you're like me. Your dinner, every oz of that chicken or fish or whatever you fancy. You're at work and someone offers you a piece of their food, say, fried chicken. And you haven't had any for a while, so  you think, sure why not? WRITE IT DOWN. That friend chicken leg, has many calories, probably over 100. So write it down. Those calories count. They all count. Also, write down your workouts. Log your reps and weight if you're strength or body weight training. If for 3 weeks, your weight hasn't increased or even decreased. Change something up. Don't idle in your workouts. Don't stall on your nutrition. Because those plateaus are hard to bust through. And you WILL hit one. Just don't be the cause of it. Do yourself a favor, and actually log every food item, every workout. And even your sleep schedule. It all effects your weight. Maybe something has been stressing you out lately? And your weight loss has stalled. BINGO, get rid of that stress. And just WRITE IT DOWN. Simple as that.

-DO NOT: Blame anyone but yourself:

  That's right. I will probably get A LOT of people mad at me with this one. I don't care. The truth hurts. But fact is, you caused all of this. No one forced you to eat like you did. No one forced anything on you. I blamed a lot of things for how I was. My feet, because I couldn't do the things I liked. My dad for leaving us. I blamed it on a lot. But it was all a sweet comforting lie, to help myself justify how I was. No one forced me to eat in abundance, or to not be active. I did that to myself. No one forced me to drink ever single day. Or pop pills. I chose that life. To ease the pain, when I could have as easily just got my ass up and did something about it. Instead I numbed myself, and I numbed the pain. It did't go away. No, I covered it up. That is the WRONG way to go about things. Don't blame your parents, your environment, your school, the other kids, don't blame the commercials, or Mc Donalds for being so bad for you. Just don't. No one forced your hand. It was you. And only YOU can change yourself. Only YOU can do what needs to be done. On your own time. Don't do it for anyone else, nor wait for anyone else. If you don't like something, change it. You might not be able to do it overnight, the change. Because it has been ongoing for YEARS. But, you CAN do it. You just have to get your mindset into it. And BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Because you are capable of doing it, You didn't get this way overnight. You've eaten like this for years. Small baby steps. And, eventually you'll look back at the person you WERE and see the person you're designed to be. Because you're strong, you're powerful, mind body and spirit. So don't even think you can't and don't ever think, it isn't your fault because, ultimately it is. So change it.

-DO: Believe it is possible:

  There are people worse off than you. There are people with various diseases and various different things wrong. Don't make the excuse that you "Can't" because you CAN. People do it everyday. People with so many problems do it. Physical and psychological diseases. They get it done. So you can too. No feat is too hard. No mountain too high. No path unable to be crossed. You can do what you set your mind to. If you give it your all, you'll get it all in return. Life works in mysterious ways. And sometimes it's hard. Sometimes, that light at the end of the tunnel seems SO far away. But, it's not. If you believe, you can achieve. You will never do anything, unless you can believe in yourself. Because, that is the ONE and ONLY person who matters in the end. Not the neighbor, not your significant other, not your parents or friends. Not that "guy/girl" you want to impress. You do this for YOU. You believe in YOU. It is possible, To quote the famous Spartacus, "Anything in this life is possible, if mind and heart are put towards it." Give it your all, your blood, your sweat, your tears, your mind and body. Your heart. Give it everything you got, and never give up. Never let life push you back harder than you can push it. Because, you're better than that. Better than someone so eager and willing to give up everything they've worked for. Believe it is possible, even when everyone and everything else tells you it isn't.

-DO NOT: Feel you have to compare yourself to others:

  Everyone is different. We all have different bodies. Different levels of health and such. So it is normal, that someone else, who is the same weight as you, for them to lose it faster/slower than you. Because, we all have different DNA. While, it is all pretty cut and dry. The basics are the same. Calories in VS Calories out. But, everyone is different. So don't ever compare yourself to someone else. To someone who loses it faster than you. It will only stress you out. It will only make you want to give up. You will compete with them, even if not on purpose, subconsciously, and you will attempt to train like them. And only injure yourself. You will only give up, when you cannot do what they can. So, never compare yourself to another person. Because, you will only be discouraged.

  The most important rule of any fatloss/nutritional/workout program, is to just do your best. That simple. Just give it your all. Don't be discouraged if someone else is more fit. Or if they are losing weight faster. Etc. Just do you. Don't compare yourself. Don't look in magazines, and say you want that body. Chances are, if/when, you get to that level of fitness, you will NOT look exactly like Arnold did when he did body building. Nor will you look like your favorite athlete. You will be you, but a stronger version of yourself. And that is what we all want to work for. To be stronger, fitter, faster, harder and all over healthier.

  Keep doing what you do, keep being strong. And. being yourself. Don't listen to others, let the critics do what they do. And you do what you do. Because, you CAN do it. If you put your mind to it.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

How to calculate calories:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/so-you-want-to-lose-weight.html

Until a further time,

Corey.