The Fear Of Rejection, And The Word No.

 "No", a two letter word that we all fear. We are all guilty of this. Ever put off a phone call, maybe to your boss? Maybe your significant other? Maybe you didn't look at that house or that car? You feared them saying, "no <insert name here>, you cannot afford/do that" Face it, we all fear rejection. We all have the nagging feeling of a situation turning south.

  We need to get out of the malicious mindset that everyone in the world is out to get us. The mindset that we are going to fail, be rejected and be told no. Am I saying, you'll always be told yes? Absolutely not. You will be told No, quite a lot. The mindset you have, going into a situation is how you get through it.

  Imagine, you're with someone about to propose. And they simply say "no". I've had this happen to me, it's been about 4 years almost. My mindset at the time wasn't the greatest. But, I learned from that. I've matured. I've come to the realization, when a situation arises for rejection, when someone has an opportunity to shatter your dreams with a 'NO' you must get into THIS mindset.

  Say you're going for a big job interview, now you aren't the best candidate on paper. There are many more qualified people applying. But you WANT that shit more. You prove with body language, and attitude that you're their best choice. You simply say "fuck it". You get in the mindset that they NEED you, not the other way around. You get in the mindset that if they reject you, if they say no, that's their loss.. Fuck it.
  You'll find another job, another car. Hell another woman. They're plentiful in the world. But, there is only ONE you. Own that shit. Own yourself, take charge and simply fuck everything. There are no bad days, only bad mindsets. There is always a silver lining. Always a reason to be thankful, get in the mindset things could be worse off. Get out of your head and into your emotions. Control them, do not let them control you and your actions.

  Boss won't give you a raise, and you've been there 20 years, but Mr. Brown noser gets one only after 2 years? Fuck it, you leave that job. You don't take shit from anyone. You only get one life. Do you want to spend it in a cubical making someone else rich? Making them money?
  The greatest success in life is to die doing what you love.
  Look at the crocodile hunter? Many would say he lived a short life. But he lived more each time he went out, than most do in their lifetime. What is your goal? Your dream? To skydive? Do it. To lift 1,500lbs from the floor? To clean and snatch 900lbs? Do that shit. You live life with the mentality, that it isn't always sunshine and fucking rainbows. You won't always hear yes, but if you love your life you'll live everyday. If you love your job, if you love the word NO, and realize that no is a blessing in disguise sometimes you'll live the perfect life.

  Think, maybe that no from one job is to set up your dreams for another?
Blessings in disguise.
Embrace the "NO".

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A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

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