Self Reflection and Self Healing

    Good afternoon everyone. I wasn't able to get my videos uploaded this morning or last night, but I can't leave you hanging without a blog post. I have been in deep contemplation these last few months, and it has brought me to this point. Self reflection and self help. These are two of the most important things one can do for themselves.

    A few months ago I was cast into a world of deep depression and anxiety. My world was flipped upside down, and just a month ago it came to a screeching halt. These past weeks, have been hard. And I myself have done quite a bit of soul searching, and self reflection. Sometimes, you don't need others to help you. You don't need someone to hold your hand, what you need is yourself. To self reflect and to search for your soul, your inner power to get yourself through the troubling times you are facing. You see, when we are faced with these times of peril, we often go about it the wrong way and we end up doing more self damage than self healing.

   When I got cast into my deep depression, I took a step back from the world. From friends, and family. I took a step back from everything I was doing and I worked on helping myself and healing. Some things I recommend doing;

-Meditation:
    Meditation can help you to calm your mind and get the mental clarity to stop obsessing over your situation. Meditation can help you align your thoughts and your mental state to be more relaxed and be more calm about what's going on. Deep, relaxing meditation is a self healing method that has been used for thousands of years, and I recommend doing this first and foremost when you wake up to start your day off in a calm state.

-Walking:
    Not only is taking a walk good for clearing your mind, it is good for your health also. Walking gives your heart the exercise it needs to function properly. It also helps your lungs, by breathing in the fresh air. Also, being outside in the sun gives you adequate vitamin D levels, which helps reduce depression and anxiety. It is recommended to walk at least 30 minutes a day, I usually do this after my meditation.

-Drink some tea:
    Seriously, brew you some green tea in the morning after your walk and sip you a glass. I choose this over coffee most mornings, because it has antioxidants as well as flavonoids that help balance your bodies natural immune system. Green tea also has less caffeine than coffee, caffeine is a good pick me up but too much can be detrimental. I usually have between 3 to 6 cups of tea a day, the green tea is only in the mornings though ( I will write another blog post soon about the different  teas I drink).

-Tai Chi:
    I practice Tai Chi in the mornings to help my body move more fluidly and un-tense my body. I use about a 4-10 minute routine just to get the blood flowing. There are various videos and various sources you can find online for routines to follow.

-Stretching/foam rolling/bioenergetics:
    I have talked on bioenergetics before. I learned about it through Elliott Hulse, and it is a good way to energize your body and your mind. I usually start by stretching for a bit, just intuitive stretching and feeling where my body needs it. After that I start my foam rolling routine that usually takes about an hour. After that, I do some bioenergetics, and begin my day after all of the aforementioned. I recommend searching for bioenergetics on YouTube, to get more information about it. The videos will show you the proper techniques on how to perform it on yourself.

That is my daily routine usually. and it has helped me keep on track and get out of my deep pit I was in. I learned to love myself more, and I learned to rely on myself not other people. That is the key to eternal happiness, and the key to making it through hard times. When you are faced with a troubling time, take a step back. Take some YOU time and reflect on what the situation is about. See what you could do NOW not what you could have done THEN. You cannot see a future, with eyes constantly on the past. You need to live in the now, and self heal.

    I find myself often drawn to nature, and the woods in times of peril. Being out with nature can help you really put life into perspective. Going barefoot, and grounding yourself with the earth in the grass for 15-30 minutes a day can aid in anti-depression, anti-anxiety, and help you sleep better at night. I try to go barefoot everywhere I go, and when I cannot I throw on my Vibram Five Fingers or flip flops and get as barefoot as possible.

    Sometimes you need to shut the lights off, put the electronics down and look up at the sky. Go out on a country road, or go to a field and look up at the stars. Look up and see the stars, the moon, the planets, and that will put life into perspective for you. I myself learned that my problems are minute, in comparison to the vast universe we live in.

Live happy.
Live well.
Do some self reflection.
Love yourself.




Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

And the followup book, 86,400:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/610922

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Meaning of Life.

I want to talk today about life in general. And, how you can make your life happier and better to the level you wish to achieve it. It is possible, to turn your life around and to be happier than you ever thought. While some of you sit there, you're depressed and upset. You cannot find a reason to even wake up anymore. And, to be 100% honest with you, I have been there before. A few years ago. I was at my low point. But, I turned it around. And now, while I am not 100% at the goals I have. I am on my way, on the path. And I am happy. Finally. You can be too, if you put the work and effort in. In this post, I will tell you some things that can help you achieve that next level, and some steps you can take to get there.

FIRST THING FIRST: 

  Stop being so hard on yourself, just stop. Quit downing yourself. "I'm so fat" "I'm ugly, no one will ever want me" "I'll never be happy". Guess what? You're exactly right. You know why? Because, you believe those things, so you project those thoughts through your expressions towards others. You are amazing the way you are. Okay? Sure, you have some excess fat, and sure, maybe your looks aren't that of the popular magazines and the TV/Movie stars. Guess what? They don't look that good either. They have photoshop and TONS of makeup, to make them look that way. In all reality, they are real people, with acne and blemishes. They have bad hair days, and feelings of always being bloated. But they put on that act, and trick you into thinking that they don't have a single care in the world. In all reality, they care more than each and every one of us. We care about going out in public looking how we do, but truth be told they get so much publicity that if they do have a single hint of some kind of blemish, all of a sudden their career is over. So stop comparing yourself to those you see on TV and in magazines. Because, you'll never be them. You are yourself. And, that is all you need to ask yourself to be. Don't expect to ever look like Marilyn Monroe. Or, Gerard Butler. It just won't happen. Love yourself, love your flaws. They make you beautiful, they make you human. They make you, real. Don't cover them up, don't let someone change you. If they don't like you for who you are, that is on them. Love yourself for who you are. And, if you don't like something, change it. But never let another persons opinion make you change. Don't lose the weight for them, to look better for them. Do it for your health. Quit standing in the mirror, sucking in your gut saying "I'm so fat and ugly I hate this". Instead look in there and say "I love myself, and if I change it will be for my health. Today will be a good day because I am alive". Because, ultimately, any day you wake up is a day to feel blessed.

SECOND:

  Get on a routine. And stick with it. Don't just sometimes do it. Do it every single day of your life. Don't make the excuse of "I'm tired" or things along that line. Just DO IT. It's that simple. You either do it differently than you usually do, or stay the same. It's a simple concept really. When you break it down to the simplest terminology. It is simply, change your routine and you change your life. Keep the same routine, you'll keep the same future.

THIRD:

  Meditate. Meditation every morning, daily. Can help your mind and body. It will help you to be less stressed. Will help your mind be sharper. Help your hunger, and your overall mood. You will find yourself to be more alert and help you be more "with it", If you may. You will feel an overall wellness. And an aura of happiness wash over you. You will he more relaxed and more at ease. Your whole body will feel good. It will help you get your motivation up.

FOURTH:

  Adapt the Primal lifestyle. Stop drinking soda. Drink only water, tea or coffee. Eat real foods. Fatty meats, fruits occasionally and vegetables. Lots of vegetables. And eat till you're full. Only eat when you're hungry. And do periodic fasting.

FIFTH:

  Be more positive. This is pretty self explanatory. Stop the stress. Stop being so negative, saying you cannot do anything. Or that it won't work. Just do it. And do it well. Give it your all. And never tell yourself you cannot do something.

SIXTH:

  Keep it up. And keep doing it well. You will fall into your routine and you won't even think about it. You will just do it. Keep it up and you will continue to see results. You will consistently see results. May it be, fat loss. Muscle gains. Getting more cut. Getting healthier. A happier mind. You will see more and more results. And, eventually your goals will be achieved.

  Just do what you do, and keep it consistent. You can achieve your results. Do your best, and don't let others get to you.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/the-importance-of-routine.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

Until a future time,

Corey.

A Wolf Doesn't Concern Himself With the Opinion of A Sheep.

    "It's not about what you do, it's about who you are becoming."-Elliott Hulse.

    That quote, has stuck with me since the day I heard it. We go through life, and we have it all laid out in front of us. We have the perfect college lined up, with the perfect job after college, with the woman of our dreams, the perfect car, house, kids, friends, everything. We have it all planned out. And live in this bubble, that we form around ourselves where nothing gets in and nothing gets out. Until, it does. Then we are stuck there, wondering what the hell we are going to do. We fabricate this world around us, and forget that there is a whole outside world, itching to get in. What does that, have to do with the quote mentioned? It has everything to do with it. Because, it's never about what you do. You can do whatever you want in life. You can do anything to your hearts content. But, who are you becoming in that process? Who are you, at the end of the day?

    You see, you can go to college, get a job, get a house, a wife, kids. But, who are you? Look in the mirror and ask yourself who are you becoming? Is it the person you thought it would be? Is your life's work beneficial or detrimental to your life? Are you becoming a better father, husband, son, daughter, wife, person? Or, is it acting negatively upon your life? These are the things we don't look at when we make choices. When we plan our lives out. We don't realize, that each choice we make grows us as a person. It creates a new avenue for personality traits to slip in, that we never knew we harbored. You may become the best lawyer, the best basketball player, best power lifter, the best at what you sought out to do. What did that gain you? Besides a trophy, besides bragging rights? Who are you becoming as a person, along with what you are doing?

    We often find ourselves at a loss. We hate our lives, our jobs, our situation. We hate a lot of things. Instead of loving life. Life is a wonderful thing man, it really is. Life is what you make it out to be. Life is how you perceive it. If all you do is watch the news, you are going to see the world differently than if you went out and experienced it yourself. Are you living your life through the eyes of someone else through a screen? Do you see the world through a looking glass, and it's all negative all the time? Bring the positive into YOUR world. Be a better you, a stronger you, a happier more vibrant YOU. Quit worrying about what goes on in the world, you can't change other peoples minds. But you sure as hell can change your own damn mind. Instead of watching television and the news at night, or during the day. Pick up a book. Live your life through the eyes of a fictional character. And realize, that the life you live is full of adventures like those you read about just in a different form.

    Life is what you make it. It really is, it's nothing short of greatness. You are nothing short of greatness. You just have to unlock your greatness.  You have to BECOME who you want to be. King, magician, warrior and lover. Such a good book by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette. Every man has those traits in him. And every man needs to unlock them, and know when to be them.

    Be the King of your castle. Rule, not with an iron fist, but not with a soft fist either. Prove you deserve the role of King. And treat others accordingly. Your wife, like a Queen. Your sons, like princes. Daughters, like princesses. Treat your kingdom, rightfully so. Never relinquish your rights as King. Prove that you have what it takes to provide for your castle. Become King in everything you do. Become King when the timing is right, and rule over your life.

    Be the Magician, the one who gets things done. Be the magician, and make the magic happen. Make people in awe at you and all that you do. Be magical in all aspects of your lives. Never reveal your secrets. When things look rough, always make that positivity appear.

    Be the Warrior. Go to battle for your kids, your family, your wife, yourself. Do not be afraid of getting your hands dirty. Get down to it, and get it done. Be on the front lines for yourself and your family. Be a warrior in life, take what you want. Be what you want. Never cower in fear, you are the fear.

    Be the Lover. Tender and kind in all that you do. Even in times of war. Know when to be loving. Know when to put the ego aside. Know when peace is needed, and when it is not. Do not go through life minus the lover side of you.

    Be all these, they are all 1/4th of your being. Know when to let the ego slide. Know when to get ride of the 'I' persona that is in all of us. Know when to be a King, when to be a Magician, when to be a Warrior and when to be a Lover. Get them balanced in your life. Be who you are, and be who you are strongly.

    Who are you becoming? Are you becoming who you thought you were going to become? Are you becoming who you SHOULD be becoming in your own mind? Why or why not? The choice is yours. The ball is in your court. It matters not what you are doing in life, only who you are becoming. A wolf does not concern himself with the opinion of a sheep. Nor should you concern yourself with the opinions of those who are stuck in life themselves.

    Would you take the opinion on losing weight, from someone who is overweight? Would you take the opinion on being a successful business man, from someone who never owned their own business? These are the things you need to ask yourself when someone offers you advice. Take each word of advice you are given with a grain of rice. And sift through the bullshit. Dictate your own life, like a King would. Only you can crown your fucking self. Only you can snatch that crown from the naysayers. Be a King, Magician, Warrior, and Lover. Look at who you are becoming, it is far more important than what you are doing. Live your life, and have fun with it.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

In case you missed yesterdays post:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
    

Live in the now.

    I heard of an Author named Eckhart Tolle, and his book The Power of Now. This book changed my life so much. So much so, that I am on my third time listening to the audio book. The power of now is a powerful book, no pun intended. It taught me to live in the now. Living in the now, is the most amazing feeling you can ever experience. Once you let those past demons go, and you let the future hold you have on your life go. You just live for today. For this very moment. Nothing more, nothing less. You exist in this very moment, and only this moment. Another book, by John Eldredge titled Wild at Heart has also influenced a lot of my life. Along with a book by author John C Parkin, titled Fuck it Therapy: The Profane Way to Profound Happiness.These three books, have influenced the person I am becoming daily. I learned things I never would have without these three books.

    Live is short, and living in the past is such a bad idea. Living in the past will only hinder your future, and living in the future will only hinder your present. Living in the now, will clear any past problem you have had. Living in the now, will clear out any worry you have for the future. What is the point of worrying about the future? You have no idea what will happen in the future. Any number of things are possible. The world could end in any second. Live in that second. You'll never get this second back. You'll never experience this exact moment you are living right now, ever again. Let me put into perspective just how short our lives are.

    9/11 was done 15 years ago. I was born in 1992, that is 23(almost 24) years ago. My grandmother is in her 80's. We look at 80 years and think that is a long time. The biblical times were more than 4,000 years ago. That may seem like a long time. And, it is. But, to the world, it is but a blip. The world is MILLIONS of years old. You are living in THIS exact moment, for a reason. Live in it. Not in the past, the past is a million years ago. Not in the future, the future is a million years away. That 80 years, isn't very far away now is it? You could blink, and be 50 and wonder where those 30 years went. You could wake up tomorrow, or you could die in your sleep. You could walk in front of a bus, a car, get hit by a plane. Get shot, stabbed, get cancer and suffer. Get hooked on drugs, and become and addict and die in an alley somewhere. You could wake up, and choke on food. Drown in the bath tub. There are thousands of ways you could die. Is that second you're living in so long now?

    The times we live in, are limited. But, we are limitless. We have the power to do anything we want. Why are we limiting ourselves by looking at the past? Why are we limiting ourselves by growing up so fast? Rekindle that kindred spirit from your childhood. Stop growing up so fast. Live in the now. Go for a walk. Hug and kiss your significant other. Play with your kids. Play with your pets. Write that book you always talked about writing. Write that poetry you use to write. Learn that instrument you gave up 10 years ago. Play some basketball. Get out and get some fresh air. Live in the now, because you never know what the next second, minute, hour, day, week, month or year has in store. You never know if YOU will be a part of it. The world keeps spinning when you're dead. You're gone, and the world doesn't stop. Why do you stop? Keep ever moving.

    We like to speculate that we know what happens when we die. We like to believe in the idea of an afterlife. So we limit out life. Live in the now, because that afterlife you look towards could of couldn't exist. Live in the now, because you never know if you'll be able to live in the tomorrow. Change your life, for the now. Let go of the past, all the pain, all the misery you may have had. Let go of your preconceived notions of the future. We are but temporary beings on a temporary rock, that is part of a billion other rocks in the plane of existence we live in.

"100 years from now everyone who is living on this planet will be dead. So it's inconsequential really all the shit that you talk. All the bullshit that you stand for. It's more important what, what you're ready to build. What you're ready to build. What you're ready to pass down to your children. What you'r ready to create."- Immortal Technique.

    Remember, when you're thinking that life sucks and it's so long. That quote above. You'll be gone in 100 years from now. And, live in the now of life. Instead of chasing the future, and living in the past.

https://youtu.be/ORGNMZhC-g0

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

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http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-to-suffer-or-suffer-to-live.html