The Three Most Valuable Lessons I learned The Hard Way

     What's going on today everybody? Long night last night getting my video on YouTube processed and up. So, it was a late start to today for me. Hope everyone is having a good Sunday and getting some much needed rest in like myself. I often find myself in deep contemplation on days like this. Slow days, the days that seem to drag on. I find those the best days to catch up on reading, do some deeper meditation than the other days of the week, try something I haven't tried before, go for a hike or a longer walk than usual. I find days like today, the perfect time to really live it up.

     Wouldn't it be nice though, to live everyday that way? Waking up everyday without a care in the world? Waking up everyday and being able to work on yourself, work on your health and wellness. Working on your mental and physical and spiritual self. You can, and I'm about to tell you how.

    You see, a few years ago I found myself interested into becoming my own boss. Not just becoming my own boss, but taking control over my entire life. I decided that I would wake up one day and use my voice to control my life. I made this blog, I made a YouTube channel, and I got some knowledge and became a certified life coach, and got into schooling for other things as well. I now wake up everyday, to better my life and better my future. I wake up as my own boss and I took my life back into my own hands. Now, that's not saying that I will not get a job. I need to get a job, this stuff just doesn't pay what I need. But, doing this is my passion. Find your passion. Take your life back from the corporate greed, take your life back into your own hands.

    Three years ago, when I decided to take my life back I was grasping at every angle possible. I finally found my niche, I finally found what I loved to do. I love to motivate people. I love to heal people, emotionally and physically. I love nature and fitness. This is the avenue I took. Each day I wake up I work towards those goals. I work on my passion. I work on ME. That is the key to eternal happiness, work on YOU first, and the rest after. That is the most valuable lesson I have learned in these last three years. Take care of yourself first and foremost. Whatever that looks like for you, do it. If it means waking up 30 minutes earlier to get your walk in, or your meditation. If it means skipping the lunch with your coworkers to go and get a workout in or to go and get some stretching in or do something for yourself to better your life. It doesn't matter what you have to do to achieve that, it is the most valuable lesson you can learn.

    Think of it this way, it may not make you the most popular person at work. But, you aren't there to win the popularity contest. You are there to do your work and get a paycheck right? If you lost it all right now, and you had nothing, who would be there for you? If the world was falling apart, would those people who you try to impress be there? Fuck no! You would be there though, always take care of yourself first. Always make time for yourself. That goes for any situation, weather work, friendships or relationships. So many of these things fail, because every party involved does not make time for themselves. With that being said, I am not saying ignore everyone else. Simply put, work on yourself before you think you can work on someone else. If you make no time for yourself, your relationships, can crumble without you even knowing why.

    The second most valuable lesson I learned; always let your walk do the talking for you. A lot of people can talk the talk, but can they really walk the walk? You will have a ton of naysayers, no matter what you do or where you go with it. From teachers, to doctors all the way to personal trainers and even being a parent. You will always have people who talk shit, and downgrade you. DO NOT RESPOND TO THESE PEOPLE. That is rule one. They want that, to bring you down to their level and beat you with experience. Instead, let your actions, let your walk do the talking for you. If your actions cannot do the talking for you, than that is something you must analyze on your own personal level. Actions speak way louder than words ever could.

    Don't let those who wish to bring you down, bring you down through negativity. Let those negative comments fuel you. People will talk bad about that which they don't understand, it is human nature. Let them talk, they talk all the talk they can because at the end of the day they cannot walk the walk like you and I can. Let these haters fuel your fire and your desire. If someone truly does back your cause, or what you do, their actions will speak into you more than their words do. They can say that they support you all they want. Are they commenting and giving you constructive criticism, or good vibes? Are they sharing your word or services with their friends and acquaintances? If they say they support you, but do none of these, than what support are they giving you? Trust actions, NOT words.

   That brings me to my final valuable lesson I learned. Your consequences are a direct result of your own actions. That is a bitter and tough pill to swallow for some. It was for me at first. I was the type, like a lot of others, to blame my results on someone else. I always laid the blame on someone else for my own actions. There is a level of maturity one will reach, when faced with their own consequences and they can say "This is my fuck up, and mine alone". We must realize, that no one else makes these choices for us. They may influence what we do, but when it gets down to the core of it you are the only one making the decision. Not them, not anyone but yourself. We need to learn, and quit laying blame on others when shit doesn't work out. When a relationship goes south, both sides argue that it was the other person but fail to see their own misgivings. When you lose your job, it is always the bosses fault for "having it out for you". Car breaks down, and it is the manufactures fault, not the fact that you didn't put oil in it fir 6 months or put gas in it when it needed it.

    That's it you guys, those are the three most valuable lessons I have learned so far. There are more, but these three are the ones that resonate most with me. Work on yourself first, let your walking do your talking for you and keep your consequences on yourself not others. That's it. With those three lessons, you can be as successful as you want to be. I myself learned these lessons the hard way. I have loved and lost, and I have had people walk out of my life simply because I was being an egotistical prick. Don't make the same mistakes I did. Don't be an asshole, and tune in tomorrow for some more motivation.


Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

And the followup book, 86,400:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/610922

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Color Grey.

"Everything is black and white". A phrase heard globally. And, everyone assumes it is true. I mean, there has to be two opposing sides to everything, right?
  Things have to be so simple. It's either one side, or the other. You're either for something, or against it. There is no "in between" in most of the lives on this planet. You are told you must either pick and choose. You cannot "sit on the fence" as it is referred to. I am here to tell you, you don't have to choose which side to sit on. You can, in fact, sit on the proverbial "fence". Because there is no defined sides. The sides we define, are just perceptions of our own minds. What we think, we become.

  In politics, we have Democrats and Republicans. Each of those sides, have "differing" opinions. And those who believe those ideals, are therefore considered one side or the other. Conservatives and Liberals. Light and Dark. People,  believe their ideals are right. But, they're both right, and they're both wrong. It depends on the person. You see, we have our own perspectives, our own perception of the world. For you to go up to somebody and say, "YOUR view is wrong, because I myself do not view it that way." Is asinine, its arrogant and it is downright disrespectful. It is like, pissing in a cup and calling it beer because you drank a 6 pack, so you say it's beer. Your opinion is not the only opinion on the planet. So why do you make it out that it is?

    We get in the groove, this "light and dark" groove. We think everything is all one sided. If it isn't Democrat, its obviously Republican right? Those crazy right wingers, stupid left wing liberal hippies. It's been this way for decades, upon decades, because nobody has questioned the structure upon how society has been built. Why would be question something that is our way of life? It has been that way for many generations. Everyone falling into line, accepting what is told, is told, and that is that. When in the reality of it, that is so far wrong that it isn't even plausible to think otherwise. The world is NOT black and white. It is in fact, many colors of many different shades. That all blend into one big ass color grey.

    Things, are never as they seem. What you see, someone else does not see. All 7 billion plus people, see things in a different perspective. So of course, it cannot just be black and white. It is 7 billion shades of grey. Every shade, adding to the overall picture. None of us have the right way, nor the wrong way of doing things. Everyone likes to believe that they have the right answers. And, anyone who doesn't agree is wrong. That is how empires are formed, and that is ultimately how they will fall. Like the Roman Empire, who thought their way was the BEST way. For the time being, it was the best. But, everything good comes to an end, as did the Roman Empire. And, it happened Internally.

    Stay humble, when voicing your opinion, and when faced with a rebuttal and you are thinking of voicing your opinion on their opinion of your opinion, stop and think "What impact may my words have on them?", "Is my way really the ONLY right way?". If you ask yourself those two questions, you can never go wrong when the universe gives you an answer back. Because, your first response before asking those questions was probably bullshit. Which was most likely, going to be some sort of insult. We all have those urges. When someone aggravates us, and they say we are wrong. When they just get under the skin, our first instinct is to attack. When behind a keyboard, you cannot punch someone. Your next best defense is your mind, but far too often our minds go into slave mode and we throw insults out at each other. This, gets us nowhere but backwards. We are trying to progress as a society, and our technological advancement is far too fast for our intellectual advancement to catch up.
 
    We have 9 year old girls giving sex shows on webcams, kids having access to websites with pornography, drugs and violence. We have people literally taking their own life, because of the words of another person. People are SO caught up in the acceptance of others, that if you insult their clothes, or the way they look, they starve themselves or they kill themselves. Or, they will do anything to gain your approval. Even if they do not know you. With technology, you can now see a woman's naked body, without even meeting her. What once was a holy ground, a sacred gesture only those who were worthy enough to see, is now seen by millions. A few typed words, and a woman will send you pictures without clothes. Spread eagle, for the world to see. Without even seeing your real face or hearing your voice. It is a sad sad world we live in. Yet, everything everyone says is always the right answer. It's never wrong. But, it's always wrong.

    There is a paradox here, somewhere, when people get into arguments. These arguments, are at such a 3rd grade level sometimes, I worry for our world. When you resort to name calling, as your rebuttal, you are in fact, wrong. There are no ifs, ands, or buts. You are 100% wrong. This will invoke anger in your "opponent" and, they will rebuttal with the same if they are wired like you are. Most people are, most people are wired by society. Society is always wrong, but they're never wrong. They're never right, but they're always right. Confused yet?

This is why wars are started, and fought. Over people, will differing opinions on how the world should be ran.

    The point I am trying to make, in all this confusion, is this. The world, society as a whole, tends to think on the premise that there are two equal sides to the fence. When in reality, there is more to the world than black and white. There are more than two sides. There are 7 billion sides. The media, the governments of the world, the "leaders", would like you to perceive it as a black and white issue. But the fact remains, the world is made up of over 7 billions shades of grey, you are but one side to a 7 billion sided die.

   This is why wars are started, and fought. Over people, will differing opinions on how the world should be ran.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Greatest Deception Of The Modern Era

"What do you want to be when you grow up?"  That seems to be the age old question, asked to kids of all age. The funny thing? Most adults still cannot answer that question, nor can they say they are doing what they intended with their lives. Sad, isn't it?
  You may be one of them, sitting there and thinking to yourself "WHAT do I really want to do with my life?"  I know, because I was at that point in my life not to long ago myself. Depressed, daily, no motivation and no care for the future. I thought to myself, "what is the point? Nothing ever goes right anyways". But, maybe the veil is so far over our eyes that we just cannot see what we need to. We cannot see what life has in store for us, if we just stray from the social norms.
  Oh, you know exactly what I am talking about. It's imprinted upon us from birth. To "follow in the footsteps of the great ones".  At 4 years old we start going to school, we do 15 years of schooling. The next step is college, which is usually 4 years sometimes upwards of almost 10 for some. And all you get is a piece of paper showing you now have $100,000 in debt. Next up, is the job. You have to get one of those, god forbid you enjoy your life. Most of the time it isn't even in the field of work you went to college for. You work for a corporation that can and WILL drop you at the drop of a hat. For seemingly no reason, other than to "cut costs". Then what? No job, wife leaves you and you wind up homeless with nothing in the world except yourself.
  Now, those lucky ones, who keep that job. Go to it everyday, but are they so lucky after all? Back pains, countless ailments and diseases. Poor diets, and lack of motivation. Doughnuts and coffee every morning, just for their pick me up. Some junk for lunch, and a quick dinner scarfed down in front of the T.V. so they can rush to bed and get their 5 average hours of sleep. Don't forget their hectic lives with the kids schedule, that they are always stressed about. Eventually, they reach retirement age. Ah, the golden years have passed. With little to show, hardly seeing their kids grow up because of grueling hours at the office. Wife cheating on them, because they're too tired to pleasure her. And when they do, finally get to that moment, he can't get it up.
  Fast forward, he saved so much for his pension. Finally able to retire. How does he spend his days? Not for fun, or entertainment. Not spent with his wife, he now has a growing ignominy for her. So he sleeps his days away, when he isn't going to countless doctors appointments. All those years of heartburn, and popping pills has given him many medical problems. And, the misses is no different. Living out the rest of their days ignoring each other for the most part, him napping and her never doing anything right to him. Until one day, something tragic happened to one of them.
  Now, say Mr. Smith shall we call him? Mr. Smith, is the first to go. Mrs. Smith lives her life out in sorrow until one of her countless diseases takes her. Now, the kids they birthed fall into the same trap. Living their lives out in quite the same manner. The saddest part? This is the social norm, now days. The timeline for "success" goes a little like this:
-Go to school for 15 years.
-Go to college.
-Get a job.
-Save for retirement.
-Retire.
-Die.
  Sounds pretty damn boring to me. Sounds like the easy way out. The great deception making everyone believe in this fallacy of the "American Dream". A dream evolved over time, into something most people settle for. The American dream, use to be to live a happy healthy life with your family. Spending days working, not only on yourself or your house, but also on your family. So many now days, lose not only themselves but also their families and friends in not the pursuit of happiness, no in the pursuit of money. The pursuit of fame. We have evolved into a selfish self centered race of beings. But, selfishness is not always bad, considering though that most people now days are more selfish than selfless I fear for our future if we keep this pace up.
  I fear, of a future where the man next to you cannot be trusted. Where, family cannot support family. Once trusted individuals, now stab you in the back for litter better than to relish in their own fame and fortune. We sacrifice what we most need, for what we most want. Am I telling you, to give up on your dreams? NO, not exactly, in fact I am telling you the opposite! Follow your dreams! Follow that which is in your heart, and don't ever give up nor give in. But heed this warning, do not give up the things that mean most in your life. Do not give up your heart, for anything. You own that, own yourself and never give your true self up. Always be you.
  If you aren't happy with your life, quit your job. Follow your dreams, follow what is in your heart. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Stop falling into the pit of despair and fucking do something about it. If you're happy living out your days like detailed about, fuck you. You are why, this world is how it is. You are how come future generations will peril to the mundane 9-5 lifestyle.
  But, if you want to change. You go and grab life by the balls. You go and change yourself.
Be bigger, be better, be stronger. Never stop evolving. Never give up.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard