Just where in the world have I been?!

I hear it often, from the few people that regularly read my posts and watch my videos. I have gone fairly rogue for the last few months. I have taken the time to do some self reflection. I am currently in school. and I took a 60 day leave of absence. The beginning of 2016 was looking good, I started my own nofap journey and things were looking up. But, every high has its low. Unfortunately the nofap journey came to an end just a month in, when I had a breakup with my now girlfriend, and my grandmother being in the hospital.

  To keep a rather long story short, my girlfriend decided we needed space, which I agreed to. But, for some reason I couldn't listen to. Which ended up in a breakup. My grandmother was in an ICU room for 4 days before moved to a hospice room and passing away March 2nd of this year. I have done no blogging and no fitness related anything since. In fact, the only fitness related anything I did was my cousins attempt to get me out of my depression by dragging me to the gym with him and his best friend.

  These last few months, I have been in deep self reflection. I have been in deep thought and deep concentration. I have used these last few months of silence to absorb more than I let out into the world. I have been gaining knowledge, both self and business knowledge. I have been in deep contemplation on what avenue I want to take my channel and my blog. I decided to keep up this course, with fitness and nutrition. Along with the motivational speaking. I want to reach out to all those like me, who can get into deep holes of depression that are seemingly endless. My path is one that is paved with many obstacles. I am going to work more on my body and getting it into the proper proportion. This will be phase one:

    Phase one includes walking everyday, meditation everyday, and yoga everyday. Transitioning to eating healthier and eating less foods that are body damaging and eating more body healing foods. I will also be doing Tai Chi every morning on top of that. As well as deep foam rolling.

Phase two: Will consist of bodyweight exercises and outside workouts. Such as grass cutting, log splitting, log lifting, etc. Along with the aforementioned in phase one.

Phase three: I will be getting either back into a gym membership and crushing the weights in there, or investing in my own weights to crush. But phase three will consist of the restart of my previous routine done by my coach George Leeman.

Phase four: This phase is where things start coming together. I am hoping by this phase I will be in the last stages of becoming the version of myself I see in phase five. This will be the phase where I put it to the grind and get my own business off the ground.

Phase five: This is the phase where shit will start popping off. The phase where I transition from the person online who is struggling mentally and physically, to the one who travels around giving seminars as a motivational speaker and fitness guru who can help those who are stuck in those dark holes or stuck in life in general.

  You see, I haven't just wallowed in self sorrow and self pity. I have been contemplating my part here in this life. We're living just to die and dying just to live. I want to break this damn cycle of saying, not doing, and saying some more. This is the year for ACTION. Watch me, as I show you transformation after transformation. Mentally, physically, spiritually and financially.



Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
 http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

The Fear Of Rejection, And The Word No.

 "No", a two letter word that we all fear. We are all guilty of this. Ever put off a phone call, maybe to your boss? Maybe your significant other? Maybe you didn't look at that house or that car? You feared them saying, "no <insert name here>, you cannot afford/do that" Face it, we all fear rejection. We all have the nagging feeling of a situation turning south.

  We need to get out of the malicious mindset that everyone in the world is out to get us. The mindset that we are going to fail, be rejected and be told no. Am I saying, you'll always be told yes? Absolutely not. You will be told No, quite a lot. The mindset you have, going into a situation is how you get through it.

  Imagine, you're with someone about to propose. And they simply say "no". I've had this happen to me, it's been about 4 years almost. My mindset at the time wasn't the greatest. But, I learned from that. I've matured. I've come to the realization, when a situation arises for rejection, when someone has an opportunity to shatter your dreams with a 'NO' you must get into THIS mindset.

  Say you're going for a big job interview, now you aren't the best candidate on paper. There are many more qualified people applying. But you WANT that shit more. You prove with body language, and attitude that you're their best choice. You simply say "fuck it". You get in the mindset that they NEED you, not the other way around. You get in the mindset that if they reject you, if they say no, that's their loss.. Fuck it.
  You'll find another job, another car. Hell another woman. They're plentiful in the world. But, there is only ONE you. Own that shit. Own yourself, take charge and simply fuck everything. There are no bad days, only bad mindsets. There is always a silver lining. Always a reason to be thankful, get in the mindset things could be worse off. Get out of your head and into your emotions. Control them, do not let them control you and your actions.

  Boss won't give you a raise, and you've been there 20 years, but Mr. Brown noser gets one only after 2 years? Fuck it, you leave that job. You don't take shit from anyone. You only get one life. Do you want to spend it in a cubical making someone else rich? Making them money?
  The greatest success in life is to die doing what you love.
  Look at the crocodile hunter? Many would say he lived a short life. But he lived more each time he went out, than most do in their lifetime. What is your goal? Your dream? To skydive? Do it. To lift 1,500lbs from the floor? To clean and snatch 900lbs? Do that shit. You live life with the mentality, that it isn't always sunshine and fucking rainbows. You won't always hear yes, but if you love your life you'll live everyday. If you love your job, if you love the word NO, and realize that no is a blessing in disguise sometimes you'll live the perfect life.

  Think, maybe that no from one job is to set up your dreams for another?
Blessings in disguise.
Embrace the "NO".

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

You Are Not Who You Think You Are.

  So often, we want to identify ourselves with a certain aspect of the world. Or, of life in general. We want to feel like we belong, like we are important to something. We want to BE things, we want people to KNOW we are those things. That, is where so many of us go wrong. We want to identify with things we think will make us feel whole. All the while, it is imprisoning us even further. We strive to become something when, in reality, we are everything we need to be. At this very exact moment in time, you have the tools you need to succeed in anything you choose. But, do not identify yourself as those things. Do not let the things you do, define who or what you are.

  I myself, do not identify myself as anything. I am not a man, nor am I a woman. I am not a human, nor am I an alien. I am neither alive, nor dead. I just am. I am here, in this moment as a sentient being of a planet, so vast and so versatile, that I can do anything I choose to do. We simplify the world so much, that our technological advances will be our downfall. Sure, it's nice to pick up a computer or a phone and talk to people globally. I mean, millions of years ago, the only people you thought existed were those who you were raised with. But now, we have access to BILLIONS of others. We have the power, to go anywhere and do anything. We have cars, planes, helicopters, boats and trains. You name it, we can travel on or in it. Yet, we shut ourselves down. We shut out the world, and destroy our means of survival.

  Many people, think the President is a higher power because of him being in a position of power. The same goes for law enforcement and others of a "higher ranking". Those, are all social marks we put on the people who have done things with their lives. Is it good, to be in a position of power? Yes, in some aspects. But, it is when you let yourself become that power and that power define you that you have a problem. Do not, think for a moment that you are better than I or anyone else just because you have a "higher" social ranking. It goes back to high school. Or ever further back, to adolescence. Even your birth day. When we are born, we are automatically imprisoned into this world. We are given a number, that defines our every waking moment. Our whole being is categorized by a number.

  Furthermore, when we grow older and are able to start moving around. We are told "no" the infamous word heard world wide. You ask something, "no" you are told. You want something, "no" you are told. You are told you are a bad child, when you throw a tantrum. You are told it is WRONG to express your emotions. Another prison. The inability to express your true feelings. So you grow older, and you begin using the word NO. Many parents, and non parents alike, know that world. A child says it all the time. It is what they are taught from day 1. But, they are punished for it. Scolded and put in a "time out" because of using it. But, the parents and adults alike still tell the child "no". "I'm hungry mommy/daddy". The response? "No, you just ate 2 hours ago you'll be fine".

  You are told, what you like. Why you like. Who you like. What to wear. When to eat. What to eat. What to do. What to say. How to say. How to act. You don't run your life as a child. And this progresses into school. You are told all those things and more. You eat at certain times. You can only play at certain times. You are told how you must dress in "public". You are told when and how to talk. You SIT there all day, 8 hours, in a classroom. Learning things out of a book, that others tell you is the "right thing". And this progresses into middle school.

  The rules get stricter. The world buckles down on you. It has to right? Or else, you'd be completely out of control. Am I right? Or, is this just a teaching we use to further imprison people? The older we get, the longer we sit. In school, we lose the ability to go outside. So we are stuck, sitting all day. We grow older. and reach high school. And, this trend progresses. We are told, you must dress proper. To act proper. To talk properly and sit more. Sit, sit, sit and more sitting. We are told to get a job, A job, where most of us sit. Or we slave away at something that makes us unhappy. We are told this is our JOB, our PLACE to do these things. Only because if we fail to do so, we are labeled as "not fit" for society.

  Now, am I saying that having a job is bad? By no means am I saying that. I, also, am not saying that we do not need to WORK. We simply don't need a "job". You must work on yourself, you must work for the world. Not, for a company nor for an organization that does not better YOU. Why slave away years of your limited life, for someone or something that does not make you happy. You make them happy everyday. You make them money, they are living the high life. While you live paycheck to paycheck. Thinking, that is your only means of income. When in reality, your TRUE income is how you pay yourself. How you pay your body. How you choose to pay your soul, you are entitled to whatever you want for your mind. You have a plethora of information, information not seen for millions of years by so many, with the internet now you can make yourself knowledgeable in anything you choose. Why do you choose social media? Why do you choose to do things that make you unhappy? There is a world of things, that can fulfill your wildest ambitions.

  Do not, identify yourself as anything. You are not your job. You are not your music. You are not the way you dress. Nor how you act, how you feel. You are not the title you hold. You are not any better than anyone or anything else. You are simply, you. Free yourself from this fucking prison. Do not be held back, from your true purpose in life. So many years have passed us all by. How old are you? That's how long you've been in a prison. For me, that was 23 years. No more though. Do not worry about hurt feelings. Do not cry over spilled milk. A wolf, does not  concern himself with the opinions of sheep. BE that Lion. Be the leader of your own life. Break out of the prison, that is holding your life back.

  Be your true purpose.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

A few posts you may like:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/a-wolf-doesnt-concern-himself-with.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/live-in-now.html
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2016/01/feed-negative.html

In case you missed it, or you're new around here:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/my-introduction-pt-1.html

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

Live to suffer, or suffer to live.

    "To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in the suffering." I love that quote, by DMX. It resonates so true to life. Yet, so many of us seem to fall short of realizing that. We live in a bubble, and think that life is some magical place. Thinking that everyday will be 100% good. No suffering here. Until, you are hit so hard, that bubble pops and you are thrown into reality with no recollection of how you got there. The fact of the matter is stands, that living means suffering. You have to find a meaning in that suffering, to survive in this world.

    Your suffering, might be big it might be small. Someone might even see your suffering as trivial. "You never went to war, you've never been poor, done this or that. You don't know suffering!" We hear people say this all the time. When in reality, we all suffer differently. Tell that girl who had hoped she would get the job she wanted, that her suffering is nothing. Tell that guy who didn't make the cut on the team, or that high school kid who got denied the college of their dreams. We all have different sufferings, different levels of suffering. Different scenarios of suffering, that others may not see as bad. It is all how you perceive it. 

    We choose the suffering we have in our life. We choose weather we want to suffer good, or bad. If we want to find meaning in the suffering we have, or want to just suffer and let it overtake our lives. It goes back to the whole, feeding the negative I talked about previously. You choose to suffer and feed that negative, with more negative. Or you choose to find meaning in the suffering and feed the negative with positive. Which one are you choosing? At this very moment in time, what are you choosing? Are you choosing to be positive and find a meaning in that suffering? Or, are you being negative about your situation?

    When you choose to find meaning in your own suffering, it is an enlightening moment. You finally get in that perspective, that you have the ability to change your surroundings by changing yourself. Changing your inner self, and inner perspective to change your outer perspective. You choose your level of suffering. You may be living in a terrible place, no money, no food, no anything. But, weather you suffer, is up to you. You can choose to find that meaning, and live a healthier life feeding your negative a positive energy. Or you can choose to feed negative with negative and make your situation worse. 

You can choose to live to suffer, or suffer to live.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard

Related Post:
http://coreysperspective.blogspot.com/2015/10/how-do-you-identify-yourself.html

Misdirection.

  Many people, don't know which direction they travel. They let the GPS work for them. Never learning the world.  You see technology has made us dumber.  No longer, can we tell the time by the sun.  The season by the birds.  Most people don't know the Moss theory.
  Most people don't know about the persimmon seed. Or how to read the weather by the atmosphere.  It's sad really, we are so blind and dumb to life. We mosey on throughout our day, and don't notice anything.  Faces stuck to phones, not paying attention to the surroundings. We miss life by trying to capture it. 
  Relationships crumble, families grow apart,  dinner consists of phones and tablets. If not, it's in front of the TV.  Family time doesn't exist anymore. And it's alarming.  When you think about it,  most of us are headed in the wrong direction. Life gives us a detour, and we lose our way.  We can't let that happen though.
  We have to look at life, as a giant roadway. With different turns and different turn offs. I encourage you to look for the obstacles,  look for the road blocks. And find a way through, around, or over them. Do not look for the easy path,  the path with no obstacles. That is the wrong path to follow. That,  is the path that will give you the least outcome.  The road to success is paved with obstacle after obstacle.
  Only when you are faced with adversity are you truly tested and strengthened.

  Go chase adversity,  and watch yourself grow.

Check out my book, How To Get Everything You Want:
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/609912

I'm also selling custom made T-shirts, to which half of the proceeds will go towards testicular and prostate cancer charity.
https://teespring.com/liftwithyourbeard